Getting support from people you trust

When you are upset, worried or feeling down, it can help to talk about what you are going through. Talking to someone about what's troubling you can make a difference to how you feel.¹

Talking to people you trust can be a really good source of support.² If you are not comfortable talking to someone close to you, there are other people that can help. Try support lines, services or talking to your GP or mental health professional.

Talking about how you are feeling ¹

Why talk?

Talking with someone can help you look at things in a different way or help you to find solutions.

Someone will notice

Sometimes, we expect those close to us to notice what we are going through. Perhaps they haven’t noticed or are waiting for you to share how you are feeling, not wanting to interfere. If you communicate how you are feeling to someone you trust, they are often willing to listen and are relieved that you have talked to them about how you are feeling.

How do I get started?

It can be difficult to know how to start a conversation about your feelings or worries.

• Find the right moment for the conversation, when you have time to talk and not be interrupted.
• You might find it easier to start the conversation when you are doing something else – such as going for a walk, doing an activity together, driving in the car together or going for a coffee.

What do I say?

It’s up to you how much you want to share. It’s okay to start by describing how you have been feeling.

You may find it hard to talk to others about your feelings and experiences or may feel nervous about how people will react. However, when you let someone know you need their help, they are likely to respond positively.

If you have already tried to talk to someone or tried to get help and things haven’t improved for you, don’t give up. There is support available, and talking about your feelings will get easier with time.

Try writing down how you are feeling, as this may help make things clearer. Some people find it therapeutic. This information may be helpful if you decide to talk to someone else.

Who do I talk to?

Find the right person to talk to, someone you trust and who you think will understand.

If the person you’ve chosen to talk with doesn’t react in the way you expect, it is not a reflection on you. It may be that they don’t know what to do. Don’t give up, find someone else who can help you.

If you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone you know, consider:

• talking to your GP;
• contacting a helpline; or
• mental health support service.

Content last updated: 21 October 2017